Have you ever thought or asked out loud, “do you love me?” It is a dangerous question. Often it is asked out of anger or confusion because of something that happened or didn’t happen. Other times it is a genuine and vulnerable question from someone needing encouragement.
I have thought it before, so have you.
The technical reason behind asking this question is something or someone is not meeting expectations. Which leads me to another question, What do you expect of someone who says they love you?
What exactly are they committing to and what kind of attitudes and actions can you expect from them?
I am curious about what other people are curious about. There is a list that comes out every year of the most “googled” questions. Most of them are basic information like “what is my ip address”, “how old is Dolly Parton” or “what time is it”.
There are also a surprisingly large number of searches around relationships, the meaning of life and how to be happy.
One recently caught my eye, “what is love”? My guess is most are asking this from a romantic place but I wonder if some are looking around at their family, culture or society and wondering what love is.
A quick search (google of course) comes up with a few different answers. A website called the conversation defined love as … is an emotion that keeps people bonded and committed to one another.
Other definitions include Love involves emotions and behaviors characterized by passion, intimacy, and commitment. While it is usually positive, love is complex and variable.
Finally one author said Love is food!
As usual, lots of opinions. It is tricky because a person may say they love their dog, loves freedom, or loves God. Obviously they don’t all mean the same thing.
The Greek language actually realized love was too complex for one word. They used four different words to try to capture this elusive idea.
Eros – means the kind of love experienced in a romantic relationship
Storge – love found in a close family relationship
Philia – love of friends or neighbors and in the Bible, fellow believers